The Make Them Believe Foundation

10 Jan 2013

On Believing In and Loving Yourself -

The other day my coworker and I were talking and he said to me, “Look Caroline. Other people exist to think and say mean things about you. And you exist to think and say nice things about you. So don’t do other peoples’ jobs for them!”

While I’m not sure I quite agree with his statement that all individuals are naturally concerned to a certain degree with putting others down, what he said stuck with me. So many people I know and care about have low self-worth and views of themselves that are incredibly negative. So while I’m not quite saying my friend was right, what he told me begs the question: if you feel the world is placing heaviness and negativity upon your shoulders, why knowingly place more upon yourself?

Over the past several months I’ve realized that the people around me concern themselves with the way I look and behave much, much less than I generally imagine. I have always been a very self-conscious person so of course I worry constantly about whether the way I am acting and the way I appear at that moment is earning me secret waves of judgement from those nearby. But eventually I figured out - in at least fifty percent of all situations in which I feel this way, that is not the case.

And who cares, anyway? Who cares about the people you don’t like? Who cares about the people you’ll never see again? I’m sure you’ve heard before the quote “Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” This is absolutely true! A person who loves and cares about you isn’t going to care if your hair looks bad, if you gained three pounds over Christmas break, if your sneeze interrupts a long stretch of silence or you stutter a little when you speak. And someone who treats you badly because of these things is a person you don’t want to know anyway. Trust me.

So my advice to and challenge for you is to stop trying to impress other people and start trying to impress yourself. But be kind, okay? Because whether you know it or not, chances are you’re already much closer to perfection than you think.

-Caroline

6 Jan 2013

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1 Jan 2013

31 Dec 2012

Anonymous asked: How can a nonprofit request your support? Also, are you a legally established foundation, or just some awesome people looking to create change?

Just ask! If your nonprofit stands for something we believe in then we will support you! We are not currently a legally established foundation — we sell bracelets to raise funds, but since we do not accept donations, we aren’t required to be registered. You could definitely say we’re awesome and looking to create change. :)

31 Dec 2012

30 Dec 2012

Anonymous asked: I just wanted to let you know that I love your "Suicide is a Selfish Act" post. I hear that all the time and it angers me. No one really knows what that person was going through or what things were going through his/her head.

Thank you dear. I agree completely. <3

30 Dec 2012

30 Dec 2012

"Suicide is a selfish act."

I first heard the phrase above when I was in ninth grade. I did a lot of research on suicide and mental disorders back then, and you would not believe how much people will use the words “suicide” and “selfish” synonymously. I wondered: why is this comparison so perpetuated?

When someone loses a loved one to suicide, they feel a lot of awful emotions that no one should ever have to feel. One of these emotions is anger. They wonder “Why? Why did they leave me? Why would they do that to me? Why would they make me go through this? Why didn’t they talk to me first?”

I do not support this statement. Suicide is not an act of selfish behavior. Suicide is a reaction to pain and a human attempt to be freed from it. A person who exhibits suicidal behavior is nearly always under the influence of depression, anxiety, or another mental disorder that causes them to behave in ways that people who do not suffer from these disorders consider “normal”. These disorders bring with them a lot of pain, despair, and self-hatred. When a human being feels these things, natural instinct urges them to free themselves from them.

It is my opinion that most of the people who call suicide an act of selfishness are either people who have lost someone to suicide or people who have not had to go through mental disorders or experience suicidal thoughts. To encourage this idea is to help prolong the casting of negativity that shrouds mental disorders and suicidal behavior. Society has so many ideas and stereotypes about people who suffer from mental disease that are simply not true!

If you are fighting suicidal thoughts and you have heard this phrase before, perhaps even been addressed with it, know this: you are not a selfish person, and you should not feel guilty for the way you feel or the things you think. You are not responsible for your depression. Personally, I want you to stay alive more than anything. But I think it’s more important that you stay alive because you actually want to stay alive, and have hope for the future and courage to keep fighting, than because you’ve been guilted into it by a careless misrepresentation of what you are going through.

Know this: I respect your emotions. I respect your suffering. I respect your thoughts and your opinions. I respect you. You will always be worth the life you were given. If you weren’t, it wouldn’t be yours. And you don’t have to change the world and rid the human race of evil to be worth a place on this earth. You don’t have to make all A’s in school or go to Harvard or make a billion dollars a year or be a doctor/lawyer/engineer or get married or have kids or feed the hungry or give up all of your possessions or save Africa… Spread a little love and kindness, and you will have done your part.

You are not selfish because you want to die or have at some point wanted to die. In fact, if you have experienced this longing and you are still here, I want you to know that I am extremely proud of you and I am in your corner. Keep fighting and stay strong, because I believe in you, and I know I’m not the only one.

You will never, ever be to blame for the demons that linger in your head. And someday, you will get them out. I promise.

-Caroline

29 Dec 2012

Reblog this if you are willing to listen to anyone who needs to talk about their problems. I want a list of every url to put on a page for people who need advice, or just someone to listen.

(Source: st4y-awak3)

27 Dec 2012

-Alex Gaskarth of All Time Low

-Alex Gaskarth of All Time Low